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Monday, March 14, 2011

Things You Never Knew About Parenting

Common parenting rules seem like no-brainers,-praising kids, teaching siblings to be nice to one another, etc. But whether we like it or not, guidelines like these for some are actually doing more harm than good. Basing on the book Nurture Shock: New Thinking About Children, written by P. Bronson & A. Merryman had made the most startling discoveries.

"Siblings that squabble together is better than be peaceful apart."
According to Bronson, siblings are going to fight because they know their brother/sister will always be there. It can be a torture to watch but instead of constantly refereeing the kids, it's the smartest move for parents to point out activities that siblings enjoy together.
According to studies, they show that kids who play together even if they're calling each other "poopyface" have closer relationships than kids who simply play alone.

"Telling your kids they're smart all the time can make them dumber." Although it's natural for parents to help boost their kids' self-esteem, stroking their egoes constantly by telling them how bright they are can have an opposite effect. It's another way of telling them that smartness is something they either have or don't have. Instead, praise their effort such as "great job". Kids will learn they possess the ability to control how well they do by working harder.

"Kids are going to lie...and it's okay." Parents shouldn't be too upset when their preschooler kid tells a lie. This means the child is cognitively advanced enough to have in their mind both the truth and an alternative idea that requires a lot of attention control, Bronson said.
You should take note though that by age 7, kids should be kicking the falsehood habit. You can best help them by letting your kids know you'll be happy if they admit the truth, since kids are fixated on making their parents happy, instead of punishing them for lying.